How have you spent your Valentine's Day so far?
Us??
A romantic morning ice skating. (swoon)
Well as romantic as you can get with one of these around anyhow.
At least we have plenty of love to share. All three of us.
Today is my anniversary! Happy 5 years to my hubs. :) Feels like just yesterday we ran off to Vegas... I still love him more than ever... My boo bear :)
Does anyone else out there get horrified at the idea of standing naked in front of their husband?
Last night I was in the bathroom with the door shut. I was washing my face, changing into my jamma's, brushing my teeth, you know that sort of thing.
My hubs knocked on the door..."you going pee?" he asks. I snatched my pajamas off the hook and said "No I'm changing". I figured this would tell him to go away.
But no.. he just busted on through the door!
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
"I'M NAKED!!" I yelled in exasperation as I shielded my body with my pajama top.
He gave me a look of offense...."We're husband and wife!"
I just stood there, cowering against the wall embarrassed and covered up like I'd just been intruded upon by a complete stranger... he squirted some lotions on his hands, and started walking away....."I plan on getting you naked later anyways"
Damn it.
Ann
just having hard time figuring out why your so hot to trot for a frumpy housewife lol
Barney
your looking great baby....your doing a great job and you seem more happy with your self....which is a turn on
Ann
oh, lol
Barney
your not frumpy lol
Ann
HAHAHA i live in pj pants lol
Barney
you got nice jubblies! lol
Ann
HAHAHA
well that's one thing I guess haha
Barney
you are so in trouble later
Ann
oh goodness
lol
Barney: i love you anabelle
Me: yeah? (looking for confirmation)
Barney: of course
Me: how come?
Barney: cuz your anabelle.... your fun, and you love me back
Me: i love you too
Whoa its been almost 2 weeks... apparently, as a couple, hubs and I have been slacking! haha
Actually he hurt is neck last week.. which rendered him immobile... needless to say, acrobatics weren't in his plans ;)
Anyhoodle, last night hubs fell asleep pretty quickly (DST is still messing with us) and I read my book.
We did have a fun little chat however, during our "after" snuggles.
St Patty's day is coming up. And our first date was on St. Patty's day (almost 6 years ago). We both talked about that day and what we were like before child, and before marriage.
It was kind of fun to remember our old selves. He was young and full of energy... he was still racing at that point.. he was still a bit broken from his divorce and he was eager to meet a new girl.
I was fresh off of losing 135 lbs and needless to say full of confidence. I felt pretty and happy about life. I was ready to move on from my ex-husband and meet new people.
We met in college as I know I've blogged before.... and our little romance was sickeningly cute to our fellow students.
When he and I first started talking, I wasn't quite sure he was into me. He was friendly and all, but I could sense his hesitation about my divorce not quite being final yet.
I worked at a restaurant on the UNH campus, and he also worked at UNH on the construction crew.
He mentioned how he liked eating at the place next door to me because there were a lot of cute girls. I invited him to lunch (on me) and made a joke about how he could scope them out while he was there. (the two restaurants were physically attached and open to one another. You could walk between them inside).
So he came in the next day, and got lunch while I joked with him about the hot blond over there that he could drool over.
I found out later, that he was coming in to drool over me... and had no interest in the blond what so ever. Apparently he was a red head kind of guy, and the sight of me all dirty and covered in flour while garbed in an apron was super sexy to him. I'll spare you the visions he had about me in that apron haha
It brought a little smile to my face last night as I remembered that.... and I snuggled up to him immersed in the memories of our young love.... and thankful for the older love we now share.
Our First Date
The Children's Museum of NH is always a fun time! We headed over today as Barney had the day off and so did our friend Ryry (my BFF) and her daughter Lily (Rowan's BFF).
The girls had a great time playing! And damn they be cute!
Husband: What perfume were you wearing the other day?
Me: I don't know why? Did you like it?
Husband: Not really
Me: Are you trying to tell me I stink?
Husband: Well no... but there's this perfume called Sunflower's or something...
Me: You want me to smell like someone else??? *exasperated*
Husband: No.. well.. I mean I smelled it at work the other day and I liked it
Me: You smelled another woman?
Husband: I just smelled it and I asked her what it was.
Me: You asked another woman what perfume she was wearing? That's very flirtacious.
Husband: (struggling to recover) no no, well yeah but you know, I meantioned my wife.
Me: I would think a man was flirting with me if he asked me what perfume I was wearing.
Husband: It wasn't like that.. I just liked it.
Me: (yelling now) SUNFLOWERS IS FROM THE 90'S AND ITS VERY OUT DATED I'LL HAVE YOU KNOW! I WEAR JUICY COUTURE.. IT'S VERY IN!!!
Husband: Well I don't like it, it smells sour.
Internally thinking...WTF!!! Me.. heading to bathroom to douche myself in Juicy Couture......I then flouse the smell throughout the kitchen where he is doing dishes.
5 mintues later....
Husband: Oh what? your facebooking and bloggin now that I said you stink?
Me: Yes I am
It took me a week and a day to download this onto Youtube so thought I should share it. so here it is :)
A couple things to note.. the color seems off, my dress was a deep red.
The damn shoulder strap would not stay up.
Yes I totally blanked out on saying Yes at the start of my vows...
Wow, could someone please tell me to stand up straight?
Don't ya love my hair? Big thanks to a very flamboyantly wonderful Gay man at the Mirage salon :0)
Love the pastor don't you??? Doesn't he sound like the priest in Princess Bride? Twoooo wove.... mawwwaige....
The videographer/photographer was the Elvis inpersonator.. he was a goof...and yes, he took 69 pictures and thought he was soooo funny because of it hahaha
I have alot to say today.. but I'm to lazy to articulate it all into coherent paragraphs, so I resort once again to the bullets..
(accept I don't know how to put bullets into my blog)
Today is my wedding anniversary as I noted below... Hubs wrote me that adorable albeit adolescent style poem down there and I totally heart him forever for it :)
I bought new shoes yesterday... and I love love love them! I feel sort of "cool" wearing them because they're label brand... and I don't buy that type of stuff often. :) (accept when they're on super clearance and probably left over from last season..shut up, I still feel cool)
My friend Ryan let us borrow her GPS over the weekend to maneuver around Boston.. I still have it in my car... and I love it so much I want to make out with it and perhaps go on a weekend excursion to the Keys with it as my forbidden lover..... Its my new BFF and I may never give it back to her....do you think she'll believe me if I tell her I was robbed and they assailants took it from my car???? And then I went and bought my own because I liked hers so much??? I think that's believable right???? No???
I am working on another CAL block from the Ravelry site... pics to post later today once completed.
I forgot to put deodorant on today and I smell like a Moe's sub..... do they have Moe's Sub shops in other states I wonder??? They're pretty big in New England.
Rowan was not sick when I picked her up from school yesterday for "being sick." Manipulative lying toddler cucka head.
Happy Birthday to my mom!!!!
My friend Ryan's birthday is today. We went out last night to celebrate with her family. Her father paid for everyone to race go-karts at F1 in Boston... it was a long drive there but it was super fun!
There were only four of us that raced, I most definitly sat out to watch and of course take pics... someone had to record the rediculousness :)
Ryan, Sam (her sister),Rick (her dad) and Boo all suited up. Barney even brought his own helmet which I thought was cute.
For those that are new to my blog or don't know me in person, Barney has been racing stock cars since he was 16 years old. He only stopped because we decided to start a family. I'm sure someday he'll go back to it.
Anyhow, it was pretty flippin funny to watch a bunch of people race against a guy that has been racing real cars for over 10 years... haha needless to say, he spanked them... without mercy hahahaha
After the race we headed over to the Hill Tpp Steakhouse for dinner. :) At dinner we gave Ryan our gift to her.. it was a collectable rooster figurine.. she digs roosters I guess. Of course as I handed it to her, she dropped the gift bag with a big thump. She cringed and asked if it was breakable.. I held my breath...
Yeah his head broke off.. it was a clean break though so a little super glue aught to fix him. The running joke of the evening then became Ryan's broken cock. haha Yes we're that juvenile, you wish you were as cool as us hahaha.
Then it was time to head home, where Grammy was snuggled up on our couch with a sleeping Rowan. :)
Here are some pics from the night, as well as a few funny vids :)
Not last night, but the night before... oh yes.. it was that time of the week again.
This week I thought about Boo and I...... and the ups and downs we've been through.
So I figured I'd take a few minutes and tell our story.
I've already blogged about how we met.... But after the initial "fall" into love, we continued on like most couples I suppose.
We were in college together... both had jobs... and we both had a life we were trying to merge together. At the time I had an apartment left over from my married days, and I had two young UNH kids living with me in my second bedroom to help pay rent. Barney wasn't prepared to move in with me when the ex moved out (It had only been a month)... so in came Dave and Corissa.
What a strange couple these two were... and having them in my home resulted in many many wars. My home is my sanctuary, and having to share it was already a sore spot... but then these two also ended up being slobs. They never cleaned their dishes, never helped out with regular housework and even ended up adopting a rabbit which left shavings alllll ovvvver the place.
We fought often.... although I should clarify, Corissa and I fought often. We tried desperately to make it work... but thankfully, after about 9 months or so... they finally left.
Boo moved in after we had dated 5 months... he was there every night anyways... why not join us and help pay some rent. And thus began our "adult live in" relationship.
Things with Boo and I got shaky right around a year. Things were going great... and I was totally head over heals for him. He however was going through some sort of "I just graduated college what do I do with my life now" mid twenties crisis. He interviewed for jobs... and finally accepted one as a manager trainee with a local Nuts and Bolts distributor. He hated it.... Barney has never been the type of guy to work in an office.. wear a tie... all that crud. He's a dirty man type of man.. you know... knuckle to the grind stone.. work hard... get messy... make things. He always has been.
He struggled with that for a long time.... he changed jobs back to UNH where he picked up his duties again as the Tools and materials supervisor... ie.. tool guy haha He liked to give himself a fancy title though. Basically he did material runs for all the various construction crews and made sure they had the tools on site that they needed.
He didn't hate this job.. but it wasn't going anywhere either.
One day he came home. He was very upset.... frantic almost... and asked that we could talk. So we sat down... and that's when he dropped the bomb.
He wanted to move to NC and get a job working on a race crew down there. It had always been a dream of his... and now that he was frantically searching for a purpose in his life, he felt this was going to fill it.
But..... he had no plans of taking me with him.... he was breaking up with me.
There was alot behind this decision. For one, he takes other's opinions to heart far to easily. He talked to the guys at work... and of course all the "guys" convinced him to ditch the girl and follow his dream. Because that's what real tough men do right? I think that I, also, was very into our relationship. I had been talking about buying homes... settling down.... etc etc... all the typical stuff that scares the crap right out of a guy. I think perhaps had his ex-wife not mutilated him when she left, he'd have been ok with it, but she was evil to him, and he was therefore a bit nervous about commitment. I can understand that.
So we were getting serious.. he wanted a big change in his life, he was scared and he basically decided that running was the best option.
That talk will forever live in my mind... I've never cried so hard... he's never cried so hard.... we were both devastate... and for what? We were obviously in love. Finally he got up and started packing some things... and I just lost it... and I grabbed him and I begged him to stay... I'd go where ever he wanted me to go... just don't leave.
And he melted into my arms... and we both fell onto our bed.. and sobbed.. and clung to one another for dear life.
It was decided that we'd both go to NC if that's truly what he wanted. I would follow him.... I loved him.... and he despite his doubt... loved me just as much.
We booked a flight.... and we flew down. He had an interview at Dale Earnhardt Inc... and one with Tony Steward's team. We visited all the shops and took in the sights. It was actually kind of awesome... But I hated it there. It was flat, and ugly and industrial. I never wanted to leave NH.. its my home, its where my family is.
The end result of our trip was that he pretty much had a job.. but he had to move down first... and then just ask to start.
We got home... and we didn't really talk about it for a while. Then he started asking about when he should plan to go. He'd set us up with an apartment while I tried to find a job from NH.. and later go down with him.
And my heart was in a tug-o-war. I wanted to stay home... I wanted to settle down, get married and make babies. What was I supposed to do? In desperation he bought me a pug puppy.... to keep me company and hopefully fill the void that moving would create. It didn't' work.
We were at in impasse. And confrontation was on the horizon.
And so it happened. One day... as we drove to my parents for a visit. I just broke down and let it all out... and I gave the ultimatum. I don't want to leave.. I want to stay, I want to get married... and I want to make babies. If you want me... then you must choose.
I'd like to say it was easy decision for him..."Oh I chose you baby, no problem". But it wasn't. This was a dream he'd had since he was a child. He'd always wanted to move to NC someday. And his dad always made it clear that his success in life hinged upon the type of work he did.. not upon how great a family man he could be. (he still makes that clear, but that's another post all together). Barney felt that in order to be seen as successful in his father's eyes, this is what he must do... be in the racing industry.
But Barney's heart had other ideas... and so he was also torn. It was a couple of very rough months for us. He was having a very hard time choosing his future... and of course this tore me up... wasn't I an easy choice?
I'll never forget the day that he chose. Again I was crying and broken hearted... I told him what I wanted out of life.. and I could not have it any other way.
And he finally... with tears in his eyes.... said he loved me to much to leave, that he wanted me. I knew it was a hard for him to do that... part of him wanted to go... but a bigger part of him wanted to stay. He had to turn his back on the pressure he got from his father... and for once in his life... stand up on his own, and make his own choice. It was a big moment for him.
And so we decided to stay. It was a relief for me. But for Barney, he was right back into that mid-twenties crisis. He had no idea what to do now. He didn't want to stay at UNH as the tool guy.. he wanted something more. That's when he decided to become an Electrician. He'd been an electrician helper for a short period right when he graduated high school and he'd really liked it.
So despite already having a degree, he signed up for night school and got a job as an apprentice. He suddenly had purpose again... and better yet, his Dad was proud of him again.
Four years later he's finished, and he loves it. I've never seen such a dedicated Electrician. He's online almost every night in an Electrical chat forum, he still studies the code despite already passing his test, and he's looking to get involved with another co-worker working on alternate energy installations.. ie.. photovoltaic panels and windmills. He's so excited about his work, and you can see the smile in his eyes when he talks about it.
Of course I got my way also... he proposed about a year after our NC fiasco, we were married a few months later on January 27th in Vegas, and then that summer I came home, put my birth control on the coffee table and told him I wasn't taking it anymore. If he wanted sex, then we were having a baby. At first he was a bit taken by surprise, but then he got excited. And he got alot of sex... he couldn't complain about that to much.
I found out I was pregnant in August of that summer.. It happened fast, apparently despite my endometriosis, I am a fertile Myrtle. I was so excited about my positive pregnancy test that I called him on the phone to tell him, I couldn't even wait to see him in person.
He got home, hugged me, and with a twinkle of excitement in his eye he said "We're really having a baby???? Can I teach it things?" hahaha He was elated...
Rowan was born in April of 06... and its been a blur of time flying by since.
Barney and I are as solid as ever... although being parents takes a tole on any marriage... we still are very much dedicated to this being a forever thing.
And despite the difficulty he had choosing this life.... He is the happiest most dedicated Father I have ever seen. He and Rowan have a bond unlike any other. She has him wrapped around her little finger...
I know he loves her more than me... and I'm totally ok with that.
I had a conversation with the hubs the other night about marriage. We were watching Food network and the Ace of Cakes fella had made a cake for a couple's 50th wedding anniversary.
After doing some math in my head, which I'll admit took me quite some time, I figured out that we'd be 77 years old when we hit that milestone. 77 years old.
This just got me thinking about us, and our marriage. I really can't imagine spending my life with anyone else... When I think of Barney and I, I think of forever. I can't think of a single thing that would ever make me want to end our marriage... well aside from him having an affair... but Barney is a good honest man, and although his eyes may stray... I know his heart never will. And even through something like that, I can honestly say that I would put effort into working things out if he told me he was still in love with me. When I said "through good times and bad" I meant it.
So I asked him...."Boo, do you see us making it that long? Being married until we're 77?" I was curious, curious to see if he thought of our marriage as being as permanent as I did... he said....
"of course I do... I wouldn't have married you had I not thought this was forever... and I still do."
My heart warmed..... and I wondered if his ass would be just as hot at 77 as it is now.... hmmmmmm
Oh and just so we're clear on why he fell in love with me
When Barney and I met, we were in our mid 20's. And damn it we were both hot. As I noted earlier, I'm going through old photos today and uploading them to snapfish for safe keeping. I found a disc from 2004, which included all of these lucious photos of my hubby when he spent all his free time at the gym. I thought i'd create a slide show for all my girlfriends that like to drool over him (Elissa you know who you are)
And thus I fell in love ;)
I have been on a huge cleaning/decluttering spree today and in that process I found the disc with our wedding photos on it. I immediately uploaded them all onto snapfish so that we'd have them saved somewhere if the disc was ever damaged.
I perused through them reminiscing about the ceremony and the trip.
For those that don't know, Barney and I were married in 2005 in Vegas. We'd both been married before and had both experienced a large wedding. We'd started planning a small potluck style wedding at his parent's house but before we knew it, we were looking into renting tents, chairs portable potties and a gazillion other things. It was supposed to be small and low key and had morphed into something huge.
So, after a frustrating lunch break spent researching rental prices, I finally brought up expedia and curiously checked out prices for a trip to vegas.
To my surprise it was cheaper than the "cheap" wedding we were trying to plan. One quick phone call to Boo and I was booking the trip.
It was a spur of the moment decision and within a month we were on the plane.
The only people we told were my parents and my sis. We were hoping my mother and sister would come along so at least someone was there... and they agreed. Actually we ended up booking the ceremony for January 27th, my mother's birthday. :)
We had it at the Las Vegas Garden of Love Wedding Chapel, which unfortunately doesn't look to be in business anymore. Sniffles.
Anyhow, the ceremony was short and sweet. We laughed alot... cried a bit... and then we kissed and headed off to the Stratosphere Tower to have dinner.
Along the way we also visited all the cool hot spots in town and took a bus tour over the the Hoover Dam.
Oh we announced the wedding by sending out post cards from Vegas to our family and friends :)
Its been a fairly lazy weekend. Although I shouldn't really say that. Yesterday was madness.
We started the day with a cranky toddler whom was up half the night the night before. She woke up pissy and was kind enough to carry the attitude on throughout the day.
We had to get new tires put onto our truck. The old ones weren't even inspectable (accept for our super cool mechanic that will slap a sticker on it for us).
So we dropped old betty off at sears bright and early and then putz around the mall for a bit. Rowan played in the playhut there, and then it was off to my friends Elissa's for her twins bday party. (www.fulltimemumma.com).
I thought it was tough pulling a bday party together for one kiddo... try 2! God bless Elissa... i'd have drowned all my babies in the tub by now (just kidding...).
It was fun though and its always cute seeing Rowan interact with other kids.
Oh did I also mention she insisted on telling an entire room of strangers about everytime she farted??
Oh and did I also mention she monopolized the bathroom for 15 minutues while she then proceeded to poop while a very pregnant woman patiently waited in line. Poor lady.
Anyhow, after heading out of the party we went back to sears to pick up our truck. 700 dollars later supposedly it "drives so much better". Sure... whatever.
Today was more relaxed. We had church at 10, and then went to the grocery store to pick up some fruit and vegi's. Then it was nap time. (for the kid not me).
Its now 3 and she's still sleeping! Lazy child.. ahh well she must need it.
Barney and I have been snuggling on the couch watching the boob tube and eating chocolate chip cookies... if only she knew what she was missing! hahaha
